On criticism of men and/or allies

When I see a comment I feel is slamming me personally, here's how I deal with it.

I identify the problematic behaviour that's being called out.

I try to honestly and searchingly reflect on how much I manifest that behaviour.

If I do evince that behaviour, then I think about what I can do to improve.

If I can honestly say that I've substantially banished that behaviour from my life, then the comment doesn't apply to me, and I let it pass.