(Relatedly: dear Wednesday!Alex, thank you heaps for making an enormous vat of leek-and-potato soup to be eaten straight from the fridge. Love, today!Alex, who has eaten about three portions of the stuff.)
(Relatedly: dear Wednesday!Alex, thank you heaps for making an enormous vat of leek-and-potato soup to be eaten straight from the fridge. Love, today!Alex, who has eaten about three portions of the stuff.)
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I served this as a side dish to a roast chicken, and then took the leftovers and cooked them into a risotto using the basic recipe I used here. Om nom nom.
I've been writing a list of things that we've been putting off doing around the apartment today. I'm hoping that while Brent is off for two weeks, some of it can be done. It's not a lot - clean the fridge, clean the oven, reorganize a cabinet. That sort of thing. By the time we get off of work, we have no interest in doing much besides curling up and taking a nap - I manage to resist most days, though. But this list does need doing, so here's hoping it will get done.
We're packing tonight to go to Maryland tomorrow. A fifteen hour drive in Capt. Rogers is ahead of us - I see quite a lot of bathroom breaks ahead tomorrow from the coffee. Brent thought we might leave at three, four am and I told him if he wants me function, we can't leave before probably five. Before then I am a shambling horror of not awake and that's a bad choice for a driver. What does one pack for Northern Maryland anyway? Weather Underground says it's going to be cool and rainy (cool being below 80F). I texted my mother (who has a birthday today!) and asked if it snowed in Maryland and did I need a parka. I did get a laugh from her on that.
Speaking of Mom, she's not doing so well. She's got to go have another iron infusion on Monday. This will be the second five hour infusion in three months. The doctors don't know how this is happening. Her iron levels are in the single digits and she's been off work since April. Good thoughts are appreciated, because I know she's getting cabin fever and is tired to talking to the dog all the time. I know she's tired of talking to the cats because the cats tend to ignore her unless she's got food for them. But hey, cats are going to be cats.
I want nothing to do with the month between August and October. Can we cancel it?
Didn't get as much transcription done as I'd hoped. This was mostly because I was still dealing with more helpdesk software shenanigans.
Did get to attend the training on some of the new various software coming down the pitch. This stuff does not fill me with the same apprehension and mild horror that the helpdesk software did.
I have three recommendations for the helpdesk software:
1) Do whatever is necessary to create a user notification for when a ticket is initially filed, even though ticket numbers are not assigned until the ticket is triaged into Issue or Request. Having the ticket number in the thingy is a bonus, not a strict user requirement, and having a receipt that it's been filed (and a copy of the text that's been filed) is still very useful.
2) Do whatever is necessary to allow the user to optionally mark a ticket as public and searchable. Because some things, like "printer is broken", "dishwasher is broken", "my user account is broken in the following hilarious ways", and "the spiders from building B seem to have followed me back to building D, and I'm not sure I like this" -- these are not things that necessarily need to remain private from your co-workers. "That tech support guy from last week was an utter shitlord and upon reflection I find I still don't want to talk to him ever again" is an example of a ticket which should remain private, and that general helpdesk staff shouldn't even be triaging.
3) The company-branded front end which y'all slapped all over this bad mofo? THAT NEEDS TO GO. The vendor's original interface has more useful information, and breaks less badly on weird screen sizes. Due to the usability issues, I see the interface through a red veil of hatred. Our company's brand images are all over that mofo. I'm viewing our company's brand images with seething resentment. I don't think you wanted me to do that.
If they changed those things, I think it would be not bad.
Purple was back in the office, more chipper than the last week or so. This is good. I don't like to see him all owwy and cranky. He finished up his stuff early-ish tonight, and popped by my cube to say goodnight (and see if I was done). The hilarity that ensued (after we reached the parking lot, where we were not run over by the white panel van) included my explanation that in fact sometimes my cleavage icon came out to play for general technical ranting. Also, Purple does not wax his chest, and the rant about a corner case bug in $PRODUCT is sort of hilarious when given while wearing an "I <3 my $PRODUCT" shirt. Which does not display cleavage.
I hope all is well with Grandmanager's dog, as he was spotted leaving work at high speed while on the phone using phrases that are often associated with dog problems.
Nora has opinions about the job market. If you're in the DC area and need a trained professional who knows how to wrangle volunteers via the internet and any other communications method you can get your hands on, and would like to overthrow capitalism in favor of worker-supported, worker-supporting sorts of work, let her know. She is awesome, and, uh, viva something.
Minions' lunch is tomorrow, and then Friday is the goodbye lunch for a teammate. I'm going to try to be awake for those things. Wish me luck.
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2. Whatever weird stuff was going on with the skin on my fingers seemed to be really getting better now. I had a couple times over the past few weeks where it looked like it was getting better and then just got worse the next day, but this looks like it's the real thing.
3. I logged in to my old megchan email address tonight, which I have set to forward to my mail email but don't actually read directly except when something needs a response and I don't want to respond with my main email. Anyway, I was logging in to email someone and tell them I'd finally added the lyrics they requested to my site but I found that all my emails had been deleted. Well, everything except what was in the spam folder and a handful of emails dating back to March, so I guess this random mass deletion happened in March? Anyway, it's all gone. Thankfully since I have had it forwarding for the past five or six years, I do have most of the relevant emails that I would need in my main account, but it was still a shock. I filled out the form to ask gmail if they could restore my emails and got an automated message back within seconds saying they couldn't. Oh well. :-/
Still Prisoner of Azkaban. I actually haven't been reading much at all the past couple weeks. idk what else I've been doing...
What did you recently finish reading?
Today I read issues 2-6 of Ms. Marvel. I read the first issue when it came out and liked it, but am not used to following American comics, so I fell behind. I'm really liking it a lot, though.
What do you think you'll read next?
Hopefully the rest of PoA, as I'm already behind on the read-along.
Author: Yoshida Akimi
Publisher: Flower Comics
Scanlator: Megchan's Scanlations feat. Molly
Status in Japan: 12 volumes, complete
Scanlation Status: Ongoing
More Info: Baka Updates
Summary: Twelve-year-old Sei lives a normal, quiet life on a small island in Okinawa until one day a strange man who seems to know his mother shows up and tries to kidnap him. After that, nothing is normal or quiet in this sci-fi thriller from the author of Banana Fish.
Chapter Summary: While Toichi and the others worry about what's become of Sei, Rin gets ready to meet Mr. Goldberg.
Voting will close over the weekend. The concom's decision will be announced Monday afternoon (Seattle time).
Work is still hellaciously busy. SO MUCH SHIT GOING ON. And because I've been tired and not sleeping well I haven't even been able to stay late, so I just work super super hard during the day to make up for it. My only comfort is that maybe if I work super hard right now and in the next month I'll have a clearer desk when I go on vacation.
Apartment-wise, oh god. Oh god. It's just been a nightmare every single day. My roommate is apparently planning to take a lot more stuff than I anticipated, which leaves me a whole lot more stuff that needs to be replaced. I... did not plan for this. I didn't plan for a week of utter chaos while she's packing and I did not plan for expenses like new furniture right now :/ I should have, I guess? But I assessed what she'd be taking/selling differently, and I have no experience with being the roommate who's left instead of the one leaving, so I didn't know it would be this big of a mess and the apartment would basically be unlivable for a week. Also, my roommate has been an annoying asshole on top of the completely reasonable moving hassle, which hasn't helped.
I have a new roommate, maybe? There's a girl who's interested in the apartment, I met her and she seems nice - I mean you know, you never know until you live with people but she's slightly older than me, has lived with roommates for 7 years, doesn't identify as a geek but has a similar sort of temperament and is easy to talk to? We met for coffee and I just... really enjoyed the conversation? Like it wasn't awkward at all and I just kept feeling like I was talking to my kind of person, so. She's taking her time looking over the contract - which is reasonable - and hasn't made a final decision yet, though. At this point I just want it to be decided because I can't live with uncertainty anymore.
It's just been... a difficult month. Which I knew it would be, but there was no way to prepare for this. What I want more than anything is just a few days in the apartment on my own, peace and quiet, but even if it does take a few days for the potential new roommate to pack up her stuff and move in (my current roommate is leaving Friday) our apartment no longer has couches :( Which means I can't even lie around and read in the living room, or watch stuff on TV comfortably, and that makes the space unwelcoming and weird and unfamiliar :/
I'm considering just going to my parents' after work tomorrow, spending Friday at their place and then coming back to the city on Saturday. I think at this point even their place, where I don't have all my things or my comfortable bed, would be better than living in the cacophony and stress of my roommate leaving.
Oh, and of course, the war. Did I mention the war? There was a ceasefire last weekend and we managed to go to the beach. There was a rocket siren at 2:30am yesterday and I banged on my roommate's door so we could get to the bomb shelter in time. Every day on the news is a new pile of dead people. I can't even think about the broader ramifications of this, about what can and can't and should have been done to try and prevent this, I just want it to end, as soon as possible. That's all I can think about right now.
This is the fourth Rivers of London book. It's still excellent and there's some neat stuff I didn't notice on the initial read-through that massively pays off way after it happens.
All in all, I find this whole series quite intriguing.
I've got a loosely-organised collection of around 10 people who remind me to do basic self-care, visit me so I have a reason to prepare food when my housemate's out, do the laundry, help make groceries happen, definitely who facilitate sleep, prompt me to do housework that makes me feel better (see yesterday's todo/tada), and so on, and so forth.
All of this is work. I am simultaneously much less and much more independently functional than I look.
This didn't really seem feasible, so we've fixed it. You can now claim an issue by leaving a comment with the words "claim", "claimed", or "claiming".
Case doesn't matter -- you can use capital letters if you want. You can also have other words be part of the comment, so you don't need to memorize a specific format. "I'm claiming this" will work just as well as "Claimed!".
Claiming will only work if the current issue is not yet claimed -- this will avoid the problem of accidentally grabbing the bug from someone else during a long discussion about claiming something else in a different context.
You *do* need to be part of the Dreamwidth contributors team on Github before assigning issues will work so we've gone and added everyone who's been active in the past year (if you got an email from Github welcoming you the Dreamwidth contributors team that's what that's about!). If you're a new contributor, you'll be automatically added when you give your CLA to denise.
For existing contributors, do double-check if you're on any of the Dreamwidth teams. If it shows you a list of teams you're on, you're good! If we missed you somehow and tells you that you're not on any teams, let us know and we'll add you ASAP.
* Taught R that "bellend" is a dick reference.
* Refrained from pointing my Overlady in the direction of the non-portable fire. (She knows very well where it is.)
* Helped Lt. Michigander on the road to sorting his Adobe issue.
* Impressed Lt. Michigander and Researcher Carmageddon with my utter fury by calling last Wednesday's tech support guy a shitlord. (My language around my team is a lot cleaner than it is around nearly anyone but customers, friends' parents, and my mother.)
* Sorted out that issue with the helpdesk software: user error (and it wasn't mine).
* Communicated to the Escalation Manager what a fantastically bad idea tech N's idea that I ask every tech to add me to the worknotes was.
* Caused the Escalation Manager to send all the helpdesk techs an admonition to not put stuff meant for the user into worknotes like Shitlord Tech did that time.
* Got reassurances that Shitlord Tech has been Talked To, formally.
* Got the Escalation Manager's email address.
2. Got some manga posted tonight and more to post tomorrow.
3. Speaking of tomorrow, it's my day off, yay!
4. I got a new blanket Sunday when we went to Walmart and it's SO NICE. I'm really particular about blankets because if the feel of it bothers me, it makes it hard to sleep, but this is really nice and soft. I also really like the color, so that's a bonus.
(The reason I got a new one is that the main blanket I use (the one that touches me) is very heavy and while it's great in winter, it's not so good in summer, and all the other blankets I have that are thinner are only good for putting on top of the main blanket, because I don't like the way they feel.)
Behind the cut: reviews of Ginny the Reaper, The Floating Market, Ice, Enterprise of the Night, Yurei, Sin.
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Original Title: ヒメゴト～十九歳の制服～ (Himegoto~Juukyuu Sai no Seifuku~)
Author: Minenami Ryou
Publisher: Big Comics
Status in Japan: 6 volumes, ongoing
Scanlator: Megchan's Scanlations + Krim + Kurokishi Scans
Scanlation Status: Ongoing
More Info: Baka Updates
Summary: This is the story of three college freshmen with secrets: Yuki, aka Yoshiki, a boyish girl who gets off on wearing her old high school uniform skirt; Mikako, who acts innocent around her classmates, but at night pretends to be a 15-year-old and has sex for money; and finally there's Kaito, who's obsessed with Mikako to the point of dressing up like her.
Chapter Summary: Kaito takes Yoshiki shopping for girl clothes and Yoshiki has a startling realization...
Chapter 24: First Love
Full volume download here.
We also have a glitter reference collection. Glitter. Organized nicely like baseball cards in a binder in little ziplock pouches. Glitter. How is this even?
Woggy is staff at con, director of a department, King of all Ops. Or something like that. He has a lot of responsibilities and is facing many sleepless nights.
My woe seems very minor compared to that. I am just cooking! I like cooking! I cook, and then I deliver food. But I am still feeling Con Trauma.
I feel bad being anxious and woe at woggy. He has many things to do, compared to me! I feel like a wimp for being so scared.
But I am scared, I am scared of cons in general, and new places, and parking downtown, and breaking rules by bringing food, even though I was _requested_ to bring food.
Not requesting solutions to any of my issues. Just hoping that venting might help, in some way. Even if the person most likely to read is the same Woggy I am trying to avoid stressing out.
But there's one response that may superficially seem compelling. I thought about addressing it in the article, but ended up leaving it out for space reasons and because I felt like I, and others, had talked about it over and over, and that at this point, if someone is still using this argument, they are simply not listening. I'm an eternal optimist, though, so I want to summarize my thoughts on it one more time. The tl;dr version is that concern over "forcing the resignations of CEOs over political donations" is a red herring. The concern is not really about political donations, but about forcing the resignations of CEOs over the kinds of political donations that white heterosexual cis men tend to make -- thus, the concern is really about excluding people in that narrow social clique of folks who have always taken for granted that they will be included in any space they want to be in.
Who pays for free speech?
A representative example of the argument is:
"...but I remain unconvinced that we really want to force the resignations of CEOs over political donations." -- Jason Pontin
(I'm picking this tweet for concreteness, not out of a desire to portray Pontin's specific comment as uniquely heinous.)
It makes me viscerally angry that this is still a tenable response to critiquing putting bigots in charge of public interest organizations. I think it makes me so angry because it's so disingenuous. Literally nobody believes that there is never an occasion when a CEO could make a political donation that is incompatible with the mission of their company or organization. The debate is about which donations are acceptable, and it frustrates me to no end that folks make such an absolutist, obviously shallow argument to avoid confronting the real issue.
The hidden assumption is that public spaces belong to heterosexual men. Everyone else dwells in public spaces at the pleasure of heterosexual men. Therefore, to exclude a heterosexual man from such a space -- especially from a leadership position! -- requires far more basis than excluding anybody else.
I want to be absolutely clear that I don't think this response is quite the same response as the even shallower (but still popular) "Everybody has the right to do and say whatever they want and keep their jobs, because free speech." This response has been addressed exhaustively (see Valerie Aurora's "What Free Speech Really Means" for just one example), far beyond what the time and effort it deserves.
The question "do we really want to drive someone out because of a different opinion?" is different because rather than appealing to shady constructions of individual rights, it raises a question about the public good. Latent in the question is the liberal (with a small 'l') notion that diversity of ideas is always a good thing. Subscribers to this, the liberal viewpoint, say that if we merely include people with a variety of ideas and opinions in our community, the best outcome will naturally happen rather than if we made any intentional effort to actually make a variety of people feel safe in that community.
Donations, by the way, are definitely speech. A political donation is political speech, and as such, is necessarily public. Don't trust me on that one -- just ask the Supreme Court. Donating money is absolutely a form of speech, and as such, should be assessed in the same way as other kinds of public speech would be.
But what about the "public" part? There is a very good reason why political donations are public. It's not, as some have suggested, a procedural accident that means Eich's donation record should be politely ignored. The privilege of privately donating money to influence the political process and thereby affect the public is inseparable from corruption. Put another way, if you are going to interfere with my life, you don't get to keep your own identity a secret from me while doing so -- if you want privacy, you always have the option of not interfering with my life. Given that I can't opt out of a law preventing me from marrying, it's only fair that the people who underwrote that law can't opt out of me knowing who they are.
While it's a bit more sophisticated than "but free speech?", "do we really want to drive someone out because of a different opinion?" is still the wrong question. I think a better question is, "Is a man who paid money to run advertisements insinuating that dozens of his employees rape children, not because they have actually done so but because they have queer relationships with adults, someone who is well-equipped to carry out the mission of his company?" Details matter.
Not only is it the wrong question, it implies a false equivalence. The subtext here (made much more explicit by various voices online) is that anti-queer bullying -- including bullying backed up with the full power of the state, such as the ultimately-unsuccessful effort to make Proposition 8 law in California -- is exactly the same thing as fighting back against that bullying. "You're just as bad as they are!", say these voices, shaming queer folks with the suggestion that we deserve no empathy, compassion or tolerance because our defiance of oppression makes us exactly like our oppressors.
Not only is it the wrong question, it's misleading, and it's hard to believe that it's not deliberately misleading. While Pontin's question explicitly refers only to donations rather than opinions or beliefs, it's hard to understand it except via an appeal to (once again) the liberal notion of diversity of ideas and tolerance for all ideas (including ideas that would, if broadly adopted, destroy liberalism). Without some belief in the inherent value of diversity of opinion, it would be hard to understand why someone shouldn't be held to account for their political donations. The statement "but I remain unconvinced that we really want to force the resignations of CEOs over their actions" would plainly be absurd. And there is no special reason to grant immunity to the act of paying other people to do things, other than (perhaps) desire to give rich people an additional way to do wrong without accountability. If there was, contract killing would be less harshly punished than any other form of murder. We're talking about actions, not ideas.
People keep talking about how Brendan Eich shouldn't have been held accountable for his views about "homosexuals", or his views about "traditional marriage", in one breath, and in the next breath about how his donation doesn't reveal anything about his views about "homosexuals" or marriage. You can't have it both ways. In point of fact, I agree with Eich's defenders about one thing: we don't know anything about Eich's views on queer people, marriage, or anything else pertaining to Proposition 8. We only know about his actions, which can and should be judged in their own right. If the conversation we're having was about Eich's "private" beliefs, we wouldn't be having it, because we wouldn't know anything about those beliefs! That's the definition of "private", after all.
If we take it as a given that the conversation is about actions rather than beliefs, the question remains of how to evaluate Eich's actions. Here are some concrete effects that the campaign for Proposition 8 had:
- It caused more people to think that queer people are more likely to abuse children than heterosexuals are (actually, the opposite is true), and/or strengthened their existing misconceptions to that effect.
- It provided further moral legitimacy to those who terrorize queer youth (and queer adults) with physical and verbal violence.
- It contributed to the levels of fear and stress experienced by queer people, especially young queer people. The copious deleterious physical and emotional effects of chronic stress are well-documented.
- It incited kids and teenagers to bully their peers whose parents are queer.
Here are some concrete effects that the campaign did not have:
- It did not strengthen marriages between heterosexual men and heterosexual women. (As far as I know, the divorce rates are still where they were before.)
- It did not result in the passage of the legislation it purported to pass.
The second point is worth dwelling on. Proposition 8 proposed an unconstitutional law. There was nothing particularly subtle about this. In his Perry v. Brown decision, Judge Vaughn Walker noted the absolute vacuity of all the arguments that were presented in favor of the proposition's constitutionality. If the case was Prop. 8 supporters' best effort to show that the state of California had a compelling interest in regulating intimate relationships, they failed spectacularly. It's hard to imagine that they didn't see that coming. I'm sure many people who voted for and financially supported Prop. 8 believed it would be feasible to make it the law of the land, but I think the folks who campaigned hardest for it were probably bright enough to realize it was doomed. It's hard to imagine that in their minds, the expected value of sneaking an unconstitutional law through the legislative process exceeded the expected value of conducting a smear campaign against members of gender, romantic, and sexual minorities.
It frustrates me that the folks saying things like what Pontin said refuse to own up to what the vague language of "political donations" actually refers to here: violence. This is not hyperbole -- according to the World Health Organization, violence is
"the intentional use of physical force or power, threatened or actual, against oneself, another person, or against a group or community, that either results in or has a high likelihood of resulting in injury, death, psychological harm, maldevelopment, or deprivation." -- WHO Violence Prevention Alliance
As per the WHO's typology of violence, political donations like the ones made in support of Prop. 8 fall under the category of "collective violence": "violence committed by larger groups of individuals and can be subdivided into social, political and economic violence."
Let's try rephrasing that comment yet again:
"...but I remain unconvinced that we really want to force the resignations of CEOs over violence."
I'm not going to say that no one would sincerely make this statement -- after all, many people leapt to the defense of Scott Kveton, who was (at most) obliged to take a leap of absence. But it's harder to defend than the initial formulation. If you want to argue about whether or not it's really violence to fund a propaganda campaign aimed at encouraging scapegoating of a vulnerable minority group, I guess you can. It would at least beat disingenuously claiming that everybody should find any political activity their supervisor undertakes to be acceptable.
I do think it's difficult for some people to understand the difference between "differences of opinion" and violence aimed at a vulnerable minority group. If you have ever been in a vulnerable minority group, you know the difference. I've been over this before in "A Problem With Equality".
What if I want something that hasn't got spam in it?As I also wrote about in "A Problem With Equality", some points of view have the effect of dominating discourse and making it hard or impossible for other points of view to flourish.
An analogy is weeding a garden: even people who love plants need to get rid of plants that use a disproportionate share of space. While there's nothing wrong with letting your front yard grow wild (so long as you aren't subject to an HOA's rules, anyway), you will probably have fewer different species of plants as a result than you would if you pulled weeds and made a deliberate effort to plant many different kinds of flowers. Likewise, people responsible for parks and open spaces make an effort to reduce or eliminate the share of resources taken up by invasive species. This isn't because they want less diversity of plant species -- it's because they want more diversity of plant species.
Ideas are like that too. If you believe that all opinions are worth listening to, I suggest that you try turning off your email program's spam filter for a week and see if you can still conduct your professional and personal life. In truth, no one believes that all opinions are equally desirable. If this was really a widely accepted truth, your city or town hall would be covered in Lyndon LaRouche flyers, you wouldn't be able to attend a conferences without someone standing up during the question and answer period to talk about chemtrails, and you would say "yes" whenever a street canvasser asks whether you have a moment to spare for the environment. The world would be a very different place. It's not just that everyone has their own set of preferences for which opinions they listen to, tolerate, or detest. It's also that everybody recognizes that the presence of some kinds of speech makes the metaphorical garden of ideas less diverse, not more, just as invasive plants make literal gardens less diverse. It's why we have spam filters, the do-not-call list, and "No Soliciting" signs. If we didn't have these things, we wouldn't have any time to develop our own ideas -- we'd be too busy listening to people trying to sell us something.
Given that the supposed goal of anti-queer activism is to make everybody heterosexual, I think the analogy with invasive species is apt. At least Scotch broom doesn't try to turn other plants into Scotch broom besides just taking away their room to grow! Really, though, I think most anti-queer activists probably know that other people's sexuality is non-negotiable, and merely seek to make queer people's lives as difficult as possible.
It's hard to grow and thrive when people around you are telling you that you should change fundamental aspects of your self or that you don't belong in your community because of those fundamental traits. It's especially difficult when those people are your managers or the heads of your company. Given the choice, you might just choose to go to a company where your managers and executives won't say those things. If they're not telling you those things directly, merely making it a matter of public record that they want your life to be harder than it is, that's not necessarily any easier to tolerate. Even if bigotry-underwriting CEOs are always nice to you to your face, never treat you in a way that's obviously unfair, their presence corrodes your ability to trust the fairness of your organization's decision-making processes. In an environment of fairness, you can be sure that if your manager criticizes your performance, it's because they think you need to work on improving something. When your leaders' support for bigotry is on the public record, it's impossible to be free from the nagging question of whether it's really about your work, or the fact that somebody up there wishes you didn't exist.
Different goals, not different tacticsReturning to Pontin's words, "...we really want to..." raises the question of who "we" are and what we want. Perhaps he and I just want different things.
I want to encourage diversity of opinion, and tactically, I would advise anyone else who wants the same thing to make a specific effort to include points of view that usually get marginalized. The points of view that enjoy majority endorsement will take care of themselves. Of course, other people might not want what I want. But I don't think it's so controversial that all other things being equal, a public organization should strive to encourage diversity of opinion within their ranks -- indeed, this is exactly what many of Eich's defenders have said.
So if we assume for the sake of argument that we all want to encourage diversity of opinion, how are we to go about doing so -- concretely, in the organizations where we work or volunteer? One approach is the laissez-faire method: just let it all hang out. But if you've ever attended a meeting without a moderator, you know that approach doesn't work. The people who can yell the loudest will get heard, leaving everybody else to fight just to get a word in.
Another approach is to maintain a social contract that explicitly calls out inclusion. It's best when such a contract is explicit rather than implicit, because it's not fair to expect people to follow rules they don't know about. I think this is a better approach than the laissez-faire approach, because having explicit policies makes it possible for everyone to be heard, not just those who can yell the loudest and longest. Part of such a social contract can be the expectation that people will refrain from public speech that has a chilling effect on the free speech of others -- particularly on the speech of those who are most vulnerable to oppression, since protecting the free speech of people who are politically powerful is superfluous. Sometimes these contracts are called codes of conduct.
Another thing that's very frustrating about the "do we really want to drive out a person for? ..." approach is that it mistakes a difference of opinion about goals for a difference of opinion about tactics. I don't think someone asking this question has the same goals as I do. I can only conclude that they have the goal of making corporations safe places for people who have any opinions that a white heterosexual man would be likely to have, while I have the goal of making them safe places for everybody who is willing to work respectfully with others. It's easy for other heterosexual men to defend Eich because they can imagine themselves being in his shoes, but can't imagine what it's like to be a queer person in a heterosexual world. I realize that it's easier for someone who looks a lot like Eich to imagine no longer being welcome in their job because the world has made progress that they haven't caught up with than it is for them to imagine dealing with the daily microaggressions that come with being part of a minority group. But it's still frustrating for me that they refuse to even try to take another point of view, given how much time I have to spend taking their point of view just so I can survive.
False equivalences"It's important to be able to work with people who you disagree with." I can't count the number of times this has been said about the Eich crisis, and it's closely related to the idea that we don't really want to force the resignations of CEOs over political donations. It's smarmy, condescending, and erases power imbalances.
It is condescending to tell me I need to be able to work with people I disagree with when if I refused to work with people I disagree with, I would immediately be unemployed and, shortly afterward, bankrupt. Working with people we disagree with is a necessary survival skill for those of us whose basic humanity is still up for debate. Not only do we have to work with people we disagree with -- we have to work with people who disagree with us about whether we're people, about whether we're capable of telling the truth about our own subjective experiences. The smarmy folks talking down to us about how we need to be able to tolerate differences will never have to experience that.
It also erases power imbalances to implore us to "work with people [we] disagree with" -- the recasting of structural violence as "disagreement" implies falsely that a queer person who says "no, really, I'm telling the truth when I say I love my partner just as much as you love your spouse" to a heterosexual person has equal power -- is accorded as much respect and credence -- as a heterosexual person who says "gay people's relationships are just about sex, not love". There is a difference between supervising employees who vote Democratic when you vote Republican, and having a boss who (or knowing that someone at the top of your reporting chain) has taken specific action to take away your civil rights.
It is not just outright speech or actions towards the goal of eliminating queer people that hurts us (and when I say "us", I mean everybody, because an environment that tolerates eliminating a group of people because of a non-negotiable trait diminishes everybody's dignity). For many of us, it's insulting as heck when people claim to agree with us, but nonetheless go to the mat for the conviction that whether or not queer people are people should be subject to debate, should be hashed out in the free marketplace if ideas. It is hurtful when someone who claims to be my ally is more interested in fostering open dialogue about the pros and cons of accepting that I'm human than they are in showing solidarity with me.
To say that 'queers are subhuman' is a valuable perspective that improves a community is, itself, an act of rhetorical violence against queer people.
Ethical Culture Fit?The last reason why I think it's disingenuous to treat "forcing someone to resign over political donations" as an outrage is that in Silicon Valley, people literally get fired (and I mean fired, not voluntarily resigning in order to cease hurting your organization, despite being implored by the organization's other leaders to stay on) -- or constructively dismissed, or rejected for jobs -- for having "different views" ALL THE TIME. This phenomenon is usually called "culture fit". In principle, there's nothing wrong with it, except that a very narrow culture tends to dominate and it's hard for the majority who don't fit with that culture to be in tech.
But if there's nothing wrong with "culture fit" hiring, there's certainly nothing wrong with a person recognizing that his views make him a poor fit with a culture that has changed while he has not, and voluntarily exiting. While I don't think that's exactly what happened with Eich leaving Mozilla, in principle, if an organization has a culture that supports queer people's freedom to be who they are, there is nothing wrong with declining to select leaders who oppose that freedom. At least, if you think there is something wrong with it, you should probably also criticize companies where if you aren't a bearded white guy who wears T-shirts and jeans and likes to drink with your colleagues after work, you will be ostracized to the point where it hurts your performance.
The near-universal acceptance of "culture fit" as a valid gatekeeping mechanism makes it clear that "no one should be pushed out for their opinions", or whatever, is disingenuous. They're not objecting to people getting pushed out for their opinions. They're objecting to people like themselves getting pushed out for their opinions, or perhaps to people getting pushed out for opinions they can imagine themselves holding. More so, they're protesting the fact that they no longer have exclusive control of the discourse -- that somebody other than themselves is now involved in deciding which opinions are acceptable. Most of the time, when you see someone calling for tolerance or acceptance who already enjoys a great deal of tolerance and acceptance, what they're really asking you to do is tolerate their domination of you.
PostscriptSome of the same people who wrung their hands about "people being driven out for having different opinions" when Eich resigned are approaching maximum beardhurt because Steve Klabnik is both a contract technical writer for Mozilla, and a critic of capitalism. To which I say: good.
So, Seattle people: if you would like to meet up on Aug. 5th before 4:00 PM, please let me know and we can try to work something out! Anon comments screened if you'd rather talk privately.
(hsgfgahhhh one of these days I really will move with more than a couple days notice.)
I am home sick today with a nasty migraine. It started yesterday afternoon and I suspect it was triggered by the glare of the midday sun along with the need to get new glasses. Unfortunately, I just got glasses in January so no appointment until next January.
My migraine pain has subsided enough that I can function, thanks to ketaprofen. I hate that it's prescription only, but it is the only non-migraine med to actually cut some of the pain that I've found.
Brent and I had a huge fight Sunday. It got some things out into the open that have made things better now that we both know about it. I might calligrapher a sign and stick it to the door or mirror or somewhere prominent that says, 'WE CAN'T READ EACH OTHER'S MIND. TALK TO ME.' It might help some, hah.
We're going to Maryland next week and I'm going to get to meet Brent's family. He met my mother's side of the family two weeks after we started dating and then a week after that, he met my dad's side of the family. We've been together a little under seven years and I've still not met most of his family because they're mostly in Northern Maryland - Hagerstown? So if there's anything interesting on the way from Hattiesburg to Hagerstown, someone please let me know!
( pecuniary discussions ) Still. We'll work something out.
Which does raise a point - I remain curious about my apparent intense reluctance to read anthologies/collection on ereader. I suspect it in part has to do with having it be difficult to tell in the moment how much of the particular thing you're reading there is left to go, and therefore whether to stick with it for completionism's sake or not; I suspect it also has to do with feeling simultaneously like a whole thing and like fragments, and that particular combination doing my how-do-I-approach-this decision-making process in.
( The Not-A-Hugo )
( Best Novella )
( Best Novelette )
( Best Short Story )
(And if you feel uncomfortable doing this in public, I've set this entry to screen any anonymous comments, so if you want privacy, comment anonymously and I won't unscreen it. Also: yes, by all means, cheer each other on when you see something you want to give props to!)
2014 07 28 23 33 23 - alunatic
Please send someone quickly to shut this thing off. At any given moment, ten engineers cluster around it, trying to figure out some way to stop the dishwasher's eerie, haunting song.
I'm moving the next chat meeting back a week, to Saturday, August 9, at 12 pm EDT. I hope this doesn't inconvenience any one, but neither Fey nor I can promise to be around this coming weekend.
I hope the hack date on Sunday was productive! Hopefully I can be there for the next one. :)
( social justice observations, because that's how I roll, with minimal but some spoilers )
( non-SJ non-spoilery observations, AKA I am so glad I went with my friends who laughed out loud at all the same places I did, which I don't think were supposed to be the funny parts, AKA two thumbs up, would watch again, no seriously I'm not kidding )
I will be there September 26th to October 1st (I leave early in the morning on Oct 2nd). Will be staying with cesy, south of the river.
DROP ME A LINE GUYS LET'S HANG OUT.
(Especially if you want to hang out on weekdays since cesy will be away and I would love someone to do stuff with/have dinner with/etc.)
Also, if you are NOT in London please be aware that I will also be in Germany and France in September-October. The schedule for that isn't totally figured out yet, and I'll post when it is, but meanwhile - let me know if either of those places is better for you for a meetup (if you haven't let me know already).